Wedding season is in full swing. This past weekend three of us at the office (that I know of) had wedding celebrations to attend. June, July and August tend to be the busiest time for the season and while weddings can be a great amount of fun, they can also be extremely stressful. Stressful for those getting married and for the family and friends who have to put up with the couple in the planning process. Whether you are counting down until your celebration or just in the starting stages of planning, here are a couple of things to keep in mind to make your day the celebration you want.
- Set a budget and stick to it. The sky’s the limit when it comes to what could be spent on a wedding. Be honest with yourself and your spouse about what kind of money you want to put into your celebration. Can’t afford your dream wedding? Have a smaller wedding and consider a vow renewal or bigger reception when your financial situation changes. Finances can already be a tricky topic for couples to navigate, it would be a shame to start your married life in the hole because of the wedding.
- Communicate with your team. Discuss your plans and wishes with everyone involved in the wedding planning process. If you something can’t be done or completed as you thought it would, a backup plan or alternate arrangement can be made. If you expect someone on your team to do something, make sure you tell them. Poor communication can lead to misunderstandings and hurt feelings.
- Be realistic about your expectations. Things don’t always go as planned, and that is just life. Life doesn’t pause because you are getting married. Things might get forgotten, weather might not cooperate, or someone might not attend. It is okay to plan for your celebration, but don’t get caught up in perfection. This also plays big into communication (see #3).
- Don’t try to do everything on your own. Use your team, but make sure you communicate that to them! Delegate various tasks to your family, friends or if finances allow, a wedding planner. Pass on some of the details so you can truly enjoy the planning process and the day. And for pete’s sake, get off of Pinterest!
- Remember why you are getting married. It can be easy to get caught up in the planning and party that the true reason for celebrating gets lost. A wedding is a celebration of love and the joining of two lives. A small wedding or an elaborate one does not change this. At the end of the day no one really cares whether or not you have centre pieces or party favours, but they will care that you are happy and have found your match.