With today being Remembrance Day, it seems appropriate to write about honoring those in our life we have lost. Of course Remembrance Day has special meaning and is to honor those who have given the ultimate sacrifice so that we today can live with the freedoms we do. In addition to honoring those who have sacrificed their lives for us, I think today can bring up a discussion about how we honor anyone who we have lost in our life.
Grief is a complicated process that ebbs and flows. We can face it head on, we can delay it and we can follow some various combination of confronting or delaying. As we are going through the process, whatever that looks like for us, how do we pay tribute or honor those that we have loved and lost? I think finding a special activity we can do that reminds of us our loved one can be helpful for bringing forward the good memories and can help us adapt to life without them.
Finding an activity or action doesn’t have to be over the top, but should be symbolic or have special meaning to the person we lost. It might be something like baking a certain type of cookie or dessert because it is what you and your Grandma did. It might mean ensuring you take a yearly fishing trip because that is something your uncle loved to do. It might even mean putting a special note or decal on your hockey helmet to remember Grandpa because he never missed a game.
There is no right or wrong way to honor someone we have lost, what matters is that it has meaning. Paying tribute to them doesn’t mean that you won’t miss them or break down, but may help provide some comfort and a chance to remember all of the good times.
Thank you to all who have volunteered their service so that we can have a safer, more secure life. For those who have given the ultimate sacrifice, today we honor your bravery, courage, and heart. Thank you.