I realize I’m a bit late for Valentine’s Day, but I figure any good is a good day to talk about how we can spice up our relationships. All relationships require effort, whether it be with your mom, partner, sibling, or friends. We can’t expect to put nothing in, and get something out of it. The good news is, the work can and should be fun. Sometimes though when we have been in a relationship for a long time, it becomes easy to take the other person and the relationship for granted. I remember reading a magazine awhile back and Zooey Deschanel (the adorable actress from New Girl) commented that when you are in a partnership you have to make the conscious decision every day to be a part of that relationship. I love this idea and think it applies to all sorts of relationships, not just romantic ones. Here are three things that might be worth trying to improve the quality of your relationships.
1) Make time for one another. This seems pretty obvious, but in the craziness of life it because really easy to put those closest to us on the backburner. This can be especially true in a partnership. Try taking a little bit of time, even 20 minutes, on a daily basis to talk. Don’t talk just about the kids, bills, or work, but try to talk about goals, future plans, the best and worst part of your day. If we want to have positive, healthy relationships, then we have to make time for them.
2) Have fun together. Fun does not qualify as sitting on the couch and watching TV. This might require a bit of creativity, but even mundane tasks can be fun. Maybe it means cranking up the tunes and having a cleaning/dance party (my personal favourite) or getting out once a month for a date. If we are having fun in a relationship we are to want to put effort into it.
3) Try something new. What better way to increase connection than to try something new together. Maybe it means trying a new activity or sport, or maybe it is as simple as cooking a new recipe together. Doing something different with someone you care about puts you both on the same team and leads to a shared accomplishment.